Parenting is HARDToday we had one of those "ARGH - this is tough" parenting moments.
If you've read the blog for a bit of time you know that we have a few challenges in parenting. ::snort:: It's OK - God is on the move and God created these children with their personalities because they will NEED these personalities to fulfill His call in their lives.
We went to a football game today. It was the game of Caleb and Andrew - sons of one of our deployed chaplains. It was perfect weather for a game. Both boys made touch downs - Hoot! Hoot! Mike took zillions of cool photos to send to their dad. I'll print a disc and give them. All good.....
However, AFTER the game I was told this by Nolan: There were two boys that were calling Zander dirty names. They were rude. They were pushing him. Zander walked away and they followed and continued. Nolan asked them what Zander had done to make them so mad. They were Nolan's age - 3 to 4 years older than Zander. They said, "Nothing. It's just fun to make him mad." WELL - THAT would have been a good time for Nolan to have come and told me. Evidently this went on for a good part of the game...and we were totally unaware. ::sigh::
At the very moment I was being told this, Mike was being told on the other side of the field that Zander was "very rude" and told "everyone to shut up" and "pushed a boy". Obviously not behavior we condone.
Mike found me. We compared notes and had the full story. Ugh. I wish he'd told me earlier. We dealt with Zander's rudeness. He said they were not leaving him alone, they kept taking things, pushing him etc....Nolan and Arielle confirmed this....so I see WHY he finally had had enough and pushed them and yelled at them all to shut up and leave him alone...but that is not acceptable either.
Parenting doesn't always have cut and dried answers. We talked about how to continue to act like Jesus when others are being mean to you. Zander informed me that Jesus doesn't want them to be bullies...all true...all true.... ::sigh::
Mike is back at work....and I need to go set up for co-op tomorrow and find some cuddle time with the kids.... I don't feel like a great, on top of it, aware of their circumstances type mom tonight.