Friday, May 27, 2016

Bella at 6.5 Weeks Old

Izaak is the master of the grill. We enjoyed dinner with BreAnne, Izaak and Bella tonight. BONUS! Sabbath and Althea (may have that name wrong?) joined us as well. Steak, salmon, shrimp....good stuff. We also had good times! 

I'm not sure how Izaak ended up fixing his own birthday dinner - but we totally enjoyed it! 

Bella is six weeks old - time is flying. 

Bella and BreAnne

Toys

Bella is perplexed...."Really, Gemma?" 


Thursday, May 26, 2016

Enjoying S'more Family Time

While the VA did take up much of your day yesterday (0745-1530), we did enjoy some family time. 

We knew where to find Bre and Bella and went on the search! Don't you love that little finger? "Now listen here, Gramps..." 

We stopped by Mom and Dads and scored some wood! Krista stopped by the campground in time to help Stacia with a plan. She's determined to learn to juggle. Yay! She's been using Bocce balls (hard - like Croquet balls)....Krista has taken classes with kids on juggling. She filled balloons with rice - much closer to a starter size, less painful, easier to toss....
We'll have to watch her when a circus is in town
 Michael and the kids decided to play Bocce while we waited for dinner. Yuuki placed herself right in the field - do you see the white and red balls? 


 Krista had to go home and take care of homework after dinner, but CoRielle, Gma, Gpa and Lorri all came by to share our campfire.

Yes, there were s'mores...and maybe I caught my blanket on fire a little. 

We haven't had a fire since we left Beale the end of March. We stayed outside and used all the wood....Stacia seems to have inherited my tendencies. 

It was a lovely day. 

Our Grand Day at the VA Clinic

Occasionally, one finds answers unexpectedly. This was our case today at the local VA clinic.   Michael had the marathon VA intake appointments in March.

In mid-May we received notice of a disability rating.  It only took 6 weeks from the appointment and we were amazed. It was lower than we'd been told to expect. It was still good - but there were several issues that impact Michael's daily life, which were not given any rating.  Many listed with "further development" on them. Our VSO has not explained. We're in the process of finding a new VSO who is responsive to his "clients."

Last week we received notice of two appointments for today. We drove to Oregon. We were at the VA clinic at 0745. Michael asked me to come with him to these appointments. He told the docs I'm his memory. ::wink::   We knew one was for "ortho" and were told the other was  a "go forward" appointment.

Ortho was "ok." We were constantly asked, "What happened 10 years ago?" as he traced the story of Mike's pain and joint issues. I suggested Stacia's birth - but that certainly wouldn't impact MICHAEL'S health. I told him numerous Air Force docs have told Michael he simply was "getting old."  That didn't fly either.  We didn't KNOW what happened to trigger the downward spiral of health. We left the first appointment wondering what the point of these appointments were. I asked the doctor that very question and he told us he wasn't an insurance man - he was a doctor. Hmph! ::snort::

Our second appointment began when we were greeted and told this was a "go forward" appointment and she was the "Gulf War Evaluator."   I struggled with my attitude for a bit....we have not asked for anything related to the Gulf War, we've not claimed anything pertaining to  the Gulf War....WHY are we here?  This doctor, though not in insurance, DID answer my questions. She is the "further development" for the issues the doctor at Mather didn't rate. Seems they wanted to get some rating to us quickly and  rated on the obvious......these next appointments are to get further information and then they'll adjust ratings as needed.

She'd read all 450 pages of Michael's medical records. She said, "You have a lot going on."  ::snort:: Michael has consistently said Parkinsons is the biggest impact on daily life, but he is in constant pain, and I've mentioned there are days he can't move.  Muscle pain. He told them this over and over. They basically said, "You're getting old." Well....when I mentioned that to the docs today they both said, aging wasn't a good answer. The one doc said, "No, this isn't aging. I'm 10 years older and I don't have to live with chronic pain."  Gotta love seasoned civilian docs. She said she'd traced his pain, his extreme fatigue and a few other symptoms and it all began about 10 years ago.  This time, instead of quizzing us about what we did 10 years ago...she told us what she'd unearthed in the medical records.

Ten years ago Michael filled out a form called a  PDHA - Post Deployment Health Assessment. This was in his records.  When troops return home they complete this form. She quoted from it and he mentioned the one thing bothering him was muscle pain and stiffness. She said this is a red flag. Less than 6 months later one can begin to trace various muscle issues being reported (pain, stiffness, weakness, chronic fatigue etc).  She said it's common for vets returning from the Gulf War to have these symptoms. She also said it is classic Fibromyalgia - and she threw in  a few more terms  too. Of the 18 pain points, he had 17 today (and this was a pretty good day).  This explains the bad days, the pain that really hasn't gotten better with Parkinson's meds. The VA doesn't require a vet to have medical documentation of service connection with Fibro IF they've been deployed to the Gulf War. She asked questions about some of the environmental things he was exposed to, and said it is impossible to know everything and so they don't require a documentation of exactly what you were exposed to. She said the fact that he has fibro, was deployed over to the area several times, has no family history,  AND had mentioned it on the PDHA makes it a solid case. It also explains all the "inexplicable aging pains."

She suggested we get set up for a PCP (Primary Care Physician) so  we can begin to discuss treatment options for the many things which have been "evaluated," but not treated.  This sounds like a great idea. ::wink:: I knew something was missing from all these evaluations. LOL

Bottom line - we have some answers - and five new appointments and THEN they will make a final determination on the rating. Meanwhile, his current rating makes him priority 1 at the VA and he can get care and meds there for free (to include neurology for Parkinsons).  The VA doc advised we not appeal until after they make a final determination. She said we may not need to appeal.

To be clear - they are NOT saying he doesn't have Parkinson's. They are saying that his time in the Gulf War can explain the inexplicable, for which we've been searching for answers for years. Michael found a doc who did not say, "You're aging."

Our third and fourth appointment went without excitement. Michael IS aging and has degenerative arthritis - not sure if they'll rate for this or not.  We entered him into the system to begin health care at the VA . We are unsure if we will transfer neurologists, but we'll discuss options with the PCP (which is a PCM in the military) the end of June.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

We've Landed

Keeping in mind the 12 hour rule of parking at the rest area, we got up early and headed down the highway. NOT before Michael hiked to the truck stop and brought back doughnuts for breakfast. I'm not sure why, but this is the one truck stop we've hit where we grab a doughnut each time we pass through. LOL
A Caboose sandwich

We arrived before the campground would like us check in....so we toured the city....dragging the Caboose adds a touch of adventure to any drive.  Eventually, we converged on mom and dad - they'd been busy in the morning. CoRielle (they like this name best, as do we) joined us. We managed to get a game of Farkle in before it was time to head to the campground.

 We had just enough time to set up and grab showers (a luxury not available at a rest stop) before Krista showed up. Wow - someone tail ended her and her car is a mess! We drove across town to pick up our mail and discovered a packet of paperwork Michael needed to fill out before tomorrow's VA appointments.

The kids and I went on a walk. We love the river trails along the McKenzie. 
Isn't this how every walks? 

Stacia took this - eagerly waiting for blackberries at the campgrounds

A face in the tree



A Vet in his natural habitat

We ended the night with Bocce ball

We didn't expect to be here the next few days, but we are always happy to visit family! LOL Alas, Bre and Bella were busy with appointments and Awana award night - but we'll catch up with them soon.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Our First Boondocking Experience (Jordan Creek Rest Area)

We told the kids this morning, Michael was trying to pick up meds and if he was successful, we were going to hit the road. Stacia's first question was, "Are we taking the trailer this time?"

Driving is slower and a bit more stressful when we drag the Caboose - but it is WAY nicer on the packing, unpacking and sleeping side of things. She was relieved our home was coming with us this time.

Yuuki is more than happy to take her turn behind the wheel

Our plan was to stop at a Truck stop outside of Medford, OR. We kept on driving. We drove until the gas light came on, and then we coasted 7 miles into Seven Feathers to get some gas. Michael estimates we had about 1/2 a gal left when he filled up.

 Our next thought was we'd get dinner and stay at the Seven Feathers Truck Stop....but up the road from the Truck Stop we noted Jordan Creek REST AREA - not an overflow parking lot - a REST AREA.  The view is pretty. It's FREE. Look for exit 99. It's up above the Truck stop and I-5, the parking spots are wide - we put up our slide and still had plenty of room. It's well-maintained and quite pretty.

Dinner @ a picnic table in the rest area

Covered gazebo and to the right are the bathrooms

Cars on one side and trucks and RVs on the other - we will be out before we hit the 12 hour mark

We are second from the left 


Fenced pet area

If one wanted to visit the casino it's the clump of buildings to the middle/right


This is a great spot to stop for the night if you are traveling through. We're happy with the find. It's quieter than the truck stop, much darker too....HOWEVER, there are light posts everywhere, the bathrooms are clean and lit, the grounds are manicured....and I wouldn't say it's the "quiet hours" of an RV park.....but it's much quieter than Flying J....and much more comfortable to sleep in the trailer than in the van. ::snort:: 

SCORE for boondocking. We've slept in driveways, we've slept in the van in truck stops, state parks, military fam camps, RV resorts, and RV parks,  but this is our very first time to boondock in the Caboose. SCORE.  We are well aware this is more like urban boondocking - but it is dry camping and free. 

Glimpses of our Pit Stop

Here are a few glimpses from our quick Pit Stop at  Beale Fam Camp and surrounding areas. It wasn't nearly long enough. We picked up Michael's Parkinson's meds this a.m., they promise they are mailing all the kids and my med records and we're done with all we need to do here. 
See the friend outside our trailer window

Mike, the camp host, made her day when he noticed she is now taller than me. But, she still climbs trees - I don't very often. 

Games, reading and sleeping filled our hours

No visit to the Beale area is complete without connecting with Matt and Rachel and their kids. I feel like I should write a braggy "mommy post" on Matt and Rachel - but I'll refrain - for today. In any event, big changes coming for this dear family and we were happy to connect again. We plan to come back in June for Matt's separation of service as an enlisted Airman, and then commissioning as an officer/Chaplain! We are so excited for them.  I love all these kids - but I'm Gemma to Joy and I'm sure I am to Ellie too - the boys are old enough to realize I am not a REAL GRANDMA. ::snort::
Look how Ellie has grown! 
 We miss this gal already. Such sweet smiles and tears....
Joy and Stacia
 

We kept trying and trying to catch up with Desiree and Jerry and kids. They are in the MIDDLE of packers invading their home. This morning we just ran over for a quick chat and hug as we knew they won't be here when we are through again.

It was a special treat to connect with Chelsea and Rosie this morning for a few minutes.....and then the trailer was hitched and ready for travel. We are currently in Yreka, CA....heading to OR for VA appointments and the weekend.

Monday, May 23, 2016

A Birthday to Remember

Arielle is special. All of our children are treasures to us  - yet Arielle was the "baby girl" for her brothers and sisters for nine years, until Stacia became the baby girl....they still vie for the title amongst themselves and I call them both my baby girls. I'm diplomatic that way. ::snort::  Arielle has a special place in the hearts of both her older and younger siblings. We don't quite understand it - but she does. To the older five, she's the baby sister. To the younger three - she's the fun ringleader.

Today, Arielle turned 19!  We have taken great joy in her sweet spirit. Joy shines through her life - we see Jesus in Arielle.  We all miss her in our home terribly, but it's been fun to watch her face incredible challenges this year and soar.  This happened today....

Stacia wants to know how wet Cory got! 

Did we know this was coming? Well, now. Michael and I see ourselves as wise, fun and incredibly relevant. Many of our friends are in their 20's and 30's.....but we have learned when young men start wanting to spend time with us - it's time to check our daughters. ::snort::  When Cory began hanging around, we looked around to see which daughter we were in peril of "losing."

We like Cory. He called and talked to Michael before they began dating. When we are in town, he makes time to just come sit at the trailer with us and chat - without Arielle. He's had several "meaningful" conversations with Michael. We knew this was Cory's intent. Michael only asked him to carefully consider timing - and we didn't tell Arielle Cory had talked to Michael becase that was his story and surprise to share when he saw fit. For the same reason, we didn't tell the other kids, thus some are very surprised.

We knew it was coming - eventually - and I'm not at all surprised it happened on her birthday! 

Cory loves the Lord. He treasures our daughter and treats her with utmost respect. They met at New Hope Christian College. He recently completed a mission trip in Papua, New Guinea - building a church. He and Arielle both finished their freshman year at college.


Arielle is 19. Cory is 23. Yes, we know she is young. We also know we married at the same ages and 32 years later, we don't regret being married young. It's about the foundation of  your relationship and not the age on the birth certificate. It's also about God's timing and and leading in your life. We are so glad Cory did not show up at college before Arielle did.

Yes, it's a bit exhilarating to consider all the changes Arielle faced this past year - and to contemplate her as an engaged young woman - and yet - we know her heart, we know she follows God wholeheartedly and has bathed this relationship in prayer.

We are thrilled for this young couple! 

PS Izaak and BreAnne have a blog name  - BreZaak. Jared and Larissa have a blog name - JaRissa. We are brainstorming for Cory and Arielle and I just don't know......