Saturday, November 29, 2008

Deadbeat Nutcracker Mom

This is a new experience for me! You've no doubt heard the saying that "80% of the work is done by 20% of the people". I've always been in the 20% - always!

However, with this Nutcracker production I am certainly in the 80%. This is probably because this is our first year and I haven't a clue of what the possibilities for help are....and also I knew going into this that I had limited time I could invest this time of the year.

I still feel bad about this. NO ONE has tried to make me feel bad - it's my mommy guilt gene. I feel like I should be doing more. I know that I can't. If I HAD to do a lot with the production we couldn't have let Nolan participate. I USUALLY do a lot more than my "fair share" of the work when my family is involved in "most anything". I simply can't this time. I knew that going in. I try to console myself with the thought, "this is my TURN to be a deadbeat"...but goodness I felt bad seeing all those parents working to haul things to the theater as I picked up Nolan and ran for the barn.

Starting tomorrow, Nolan will be at practice every day through the last performance, which is next Sunday. I WILL be ushering for all 3 shows. I need to find some way to help out more that will allow me to also do all the other things that were on the calendar before Nutcracker....I'm not sure how...maybe I simply need to get used to be a deadbeat mom. ::snort::


©2008 D.R.G.

7 comments:

Deja said...

Now, you KNOW you're not a deadbeat mom! You didn't seek out being a part of this production. Blame it on Nolan's friend, Erik, and his mom for recruiting Nolan
;-) YOU did US a favor by providing a much-needed BOY to round out the cast! AND you helped the homeschoolers prove that we don't lock our kids in closets and that they ARE contributing members of society! AND you ARE giving Nolan an unforgettable experience! Now, go and have a piece of chocolate and be done with this Deadbeat Mom stuff!

Anonymous said...

I'm w/Deja! No more deadbeat downer diatribe! If it ain't conviction coming from our Good God, it ain't worth dwelling on!

Remember AK? You know what spreading yourself too thin did to you & your family. Now, love them and leave the rest to the Lord, please! He gave the body many members...(1 Corinthians)...

OK, that was a bit strong...I appreciate the mommy guilt gene feelings, but I've been taught (by an AF chaplain) that feelings can be deceptive. So, lighten up on yourself, please? {G}

Renee said...

DeEtta, we all do what we can do. I know that I've not done as much with A Christmas CArol as I have done with other activities.... but I also have to drive four other children to work, college, etc.....
Be thankful you only have three shows.... Abigail starts long rehearsals tonight through Wed, dress rehearsal on Thursday... and then ten shows over the course of two weekends.

Kristine said...

Well, my goodness, your ds is participating, and if they didn't have enough kids, they wouldn't have the production if that weren't the case. (g)

Also, you ARE ushering. That's definitely not "deadbeat"!

DeEtta @ Courageous Joy said...

Darshia - I love to hear my words coming back at me through you....you are right.

No more guilt...I'll do what I can.

Jodi said...

Just say no to guilt!

Cynthia said...

I can so relate! I haven't done a single thing for Em's choir other than take pictures at the concert and I'll make a quick smilebox after they go caroling.. that's it... that's all... You can only do what you can do!