Today we went to the park.
I got royally cussed out by a fellow mother. Their group had obviously spent the beautiful day at the lake drinking. They were not watching their children.
Their children were very mean and rude to Stacia.
I asked them to please let her play. They kept it up. They would yell at Stacia, push her etc whenever she tried to enter the play area. I got up to play with them. I said to them - and this is REALLY what I said, "The play ground is for everyone to play. Don't be rude, let's play nicely. What's your name...." and went on to introduce them to each other. I then played on the slides etc with all the kids for about 10 minutes. They were having fun!
The older kids decided they wanted to go back to mom....the younger one wanted to keep playing as she was having fun. They went back and evidently told Mom I called her precious "rude".
She read me the riot act while my boys and another gentlemen at the park obviously were readying for a fight. I stayed calm and relaxed. I kept my stance non- threatening. I told her that, "Yes, I did say let's play nice and not be rude". She said I was out of line. I told her that if my daughter is playing and I'm not around I wouldn't care if someone had said that. She said we are not the same. She insisted the girl was too young for another adult to talk to her about her behavior (thought those are not the words that she used). I would think if she's too young she should have been supervised. Nevertheless, I told her o.k., if there were more problems I will come get you. She was FAR from the playground and until she came screaming at me I had no clue she was the children's mother. LOL I turned my back as she was leaving the area. She went ballistic...cussing me out...shaking her fists and carrying on......
As we left, we saw the men in the party returning with 4 more cases of beer. If there had been base personnel in the office I would have turned them in as you are not supposed to have "public displays of drunkenness" on base property....This is a lake/park owned by the base but they let the city use it.
Honestly, this is something that has perplexed me at home school park days, chapel events, and parks in general. If you are NOT supervising your child and you are visiting with other mommies....isn't it o.k. for the adult who IS supervising to address your child if need be? I'm not mean. I played with the children for 10 minutes before the older ones decided to go tell Mom how mean I was. I don't get mad at adults who gently address my children.
I thought maybe it was an age thing. She was a 20 something mom and I was 40 something mom....I thought maybe I've parented long enough to realize that if someone tells me a child has misbehaved, he/she most likely has. ::snort:: I mean I LISTEN to my child's point of view....but if my older kids come and tell me my child is behaving badly and has been corrected by an adult, and you can TELL if they have misbehaved by their demeanor, I make them go apologize to the adult. I've done this.
Mike thinks it's personality...he remembers a mom of one of his friends who was like this in the 60's....He says he can think of older moms who would react the same way.....and I've seen all cultures react this way so I don't think it was totally cultural. I suppose it is personality and maturity....I suspect I should simply look for parks without kids. ::snort::
We went to Lamar and played nicely with the others there.
I don't know....