Some have asked me to share....I hesitated because while I can choose to be transparent - my family's privacy is important and I don't want to violate that. I don't want them to feel that their life is lived in a fish bowl - well come to think of it they ARE Pastor's Kids - but you know - no more of a fish bowl than necessary. But I've thought I can share the "bones" of our service.
Wow - that one comment of Deja's changed things for us. We'd never had any type of service. We did this time. I had given Mike arrows and a quiver years ago. I had given him a new arrow to announce this pregnancy. He wanted to have a service with the arrow. I wanted to buy more small arrows to have a visible reminder....but I'm praying about a new memorial that I'll keep for the children we've lost.
THIS time we went out to the State park. We talked, Mike gave us each time to share our heart - and we did and it was precious. We laughed, we cried, we circled up. Mike read some verses from John 14 and Rev. We prayed.
Then we had one of the boys shoot the arrow into the lake.
It means a lot to me that we did this. It means a lot to have a place where we honored our little one. It helped. I don't feel like I can share any more details.
Wow - that one comment of Deja's changed things for us. We'd never had any type of service. We did this time. I had given Mike arrows and a quiver years ago. I had given him a new arrow to announce this pregnancy. He wanted to have a service with the arrow. I wanted to buy more small arrows to have a visible reminder....but I'm praying about a new memorial that I'll keep for the children we've lost.
THIS time we went out to the State park. We talked, Mike gave us each time to share our heart - and we did and it was precious. We laughed, we cried, we circled up. Mike read some verses from John 14 and Rev. We prayed.
Then we had one of the boys shoot the arrow into the lake.
It means a lot to me that we did this. It means a lot to have a place where we honored our little one. It helped. I don't feel like I can share any more details.
5 comments:
Thank you for sharing. How perfect & poignant to shoot the arrow into the lake after all had spoken.
Thank you for sharing. Your memorial service was perfect for your family... and brought tears to my eyes....
It was a good thing. I'm so glad we gave ourselves permission to grieve rather than "get over it".
I didn't post photos or specific comments - seemed too much invasion of the family's privacy.....but it was a special time.
De'Etta, thank you so much for sharing. I sat and cried as I read your few posts about the last days with your precious baby. I especially like the image of the arrow arcing into the lake.
What a very beautiful way to hand him or her back into the arms of Jesus.
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